Counseling & Consultation for Older Adults & Families

“Old age ain’t for sissies!”  – Bette Davis 

Nancy009Mass media in this country tries to gloss over older life as the “golden years”. This pollyanna approach isn’t realistic, isn’t helpful and can actually be destructive.

On the other hand, there are the many messages that convey only doom and gloom, i.e. that older people don’t matter, that youth is all that counts, and that depression is inevitable. This too is off balance. 

Both ends of the spectrum can leave you feeling confused, overwhelmed and longing for answers.

The truth is that there is enjoyment to be had along this journey – a deep richness of perspective and peace that only comes in older years.

Are there challenges? Yes. 

As Harvard geriatrician Dr. Bill Thomas says so well below:

 “Aging is the most dangerous game you’ll ever play. It makes the NFL look like a powder puff league. The people who are taking the most risks, who are really living on the edge, are older people.”

If you feel like you are losing your way, you may only need to have a guide and a coach as you travel through the “Another Country” (term coined by bestselling author Mary Pipher) of older life. A trained and compassionate expert will be able to quickly assess what is going on for you and provide you with tried-and-true tips, practical strategies, compassionate support and answers. 

Sources of Answers and Guidance

1. You can sometimes find help by talking with with wise older people in your community. Ask questions, listen to their stories, invite them to tell you things like what they enjoy about being their age and what surprises them. Learn everything you can from these “natives” of the territory of older age! 

2. “Guidebooks” can be helpful. Mary Pipher’s Another Country; The Longevity Revolution by Dr. Robert Butler (the founding Director of the National Institute of Aging), From Age-ing to Sage-ing by Zalman Schachter-Shalomi, and Aging as a Spiritual Practice by Lewis Richmond are excellent examples. Dr. Bill Thomas, a Harvard MD, is my favorite activist hero for older people these days. Check out his latest book “Second Wind”

3.  But, when you are in crisis, it is best to move quickly towards resolution and relief byt seeing a counselor one on one. This is the kind of help I love to provide. I can help you find answers and resources for whatever aging-related crises are looming in your life.  I am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Credentialed Professional Gerontologist. My entire clinical focus for the past many years is on midlife and older individuals and families.

You don’t have to reinvent the wheel or white-knuckle it out alone. Call me and let me help you get back on course.

Call to schedule a free 20 minute consultation. 

415-378-6577. Email . Or, click on Contact Me.