Specialist in Issues of Midlife & Older Adults

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A New Year & A New Perspective


Nancy009-colorA New Year & A New Perspective

Dear friends and colleagues in the healing arts,

2015 presented me with some interesting challenges. After the death of my beloved mother and the near death and continued illness of my husband, I wondered how we healers can continue to serve our patients when we ourselves are in the midst of tough times. Maybe some of you have come up against this question too.

What I discovered is, as songwriter Leonard Cohen writes, “The birds they sang at the break of day. Start again I heard them say. Don’t dwell on what has passed away or what is yet to be. Ring the bells that still can ring. Forget your perfect offering. There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.”

It’s this last part that has surprised me. What an unexpected gift is the grace and light that can emerge out of adversity. What I am learned continually deepens both my work and my home life.

As we get older, we find ourselves adding to our toolkit of life skills. Mindfulness tools have reentered my life and work in a big way. And so has my intention to reach a much wider audience through teaching nationally about conscious aging.  The need and demand for navigation help is so great as the boomer generation enters the unfamiliar terrain of older life.lost confused direction sign

If you have friends, family or patients in these populations below who you think I might be able to help or if you have questions yourself, please feel free to reach out anytime:

  • People in their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s waking up to their own sense of aging – often through illness or other changes in themselves or their loved ones. They seek answers, solutions, and guidance.
  • Adult children of aging parents who feel confounded and frustrated about how to best help their parents through a myriad of difficult circumstances. They are the sandwich generation with aging parents, children and often grandchildren too.
  • Families where adult children and aging parents need to and want to come to some new understandings and find a closeness now to the extent they can while they can still can.
  • People in their 80’s and early 90’s who are facing their last years with all that that entails – memories, regrets, fears, peace and contemplation – all healthy parts of this stage of life. Having a genuinely caring nonjudgmental skilled listener is so valuable.

You might already know that there are very few psychotherapists in Marin who have advance training in gerontology. With my expertise in the fields of aging, communication, business, medicine and psychology, I am uniquely qualified to help your midlife and older patients, friends and family.

My offices are in Mill Valley and San Anselmo. Telephone appointments are also available for people who do not live close by.  I provide a free initial phone consultation. And if I can’t help, I can often steer people to other beneficial resources.

With warm wishes for a peaceful 2016,

Nancy Rhine, MS, LMFT, CPG